tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627090839086981216.post2077669932801702912..comments2023-10-18T03:58:27.778-07:00Comments on Aurora Murphy: Preventing Rape Through Performance: Dear Greg Evans, I'm trying to learn how to loveAurora Murphyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15374149159200550579noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627090839086981216.post-44451265570966315992011-01-03T22:44:25.115-08:002011-01-03T22:44:25.115-08:00Dear Her Cotton Socks and Dawn,
Sorry my reply is...Dear Her Cotton Socks and Dawn,<br /><br />Sorry my reply is so tardy. I have to work out how to make the computer tell me when I have comments.<br /><br />Actually, lately i have learnt so much in love. Yes, I agree with you dawn that we must unravel the Western romantic myth of love. this myth actually outlines lust, not love. and I don't have a problem with lust! And yes, Her Cotton Socks, I do burn to share love so deeply. I think this can be a little intense? Or perhaps it makes me hold on for too long?<br /><br />I also think I get fooled. I fall for pretty words. So many pretty words! And such an ugly chain they make. These words are so quick to rust and they scratch and itch.<br /><br />Now, I think LOVE IS AN ACTION. I had to yell that cos i really mean it. Love is not a static feeling. It is not a turgid emotion. Love is the doing, the act of listening deeply, caring, considering. I do not love my lover because she is kind. I love her because she is consistently kind to me. A little kid taught me this. He said he loves his girlfriend cos she 'is nice to me'.<br /><br />And that's about it, really. It's so banal to be nice. But it's the most loving act we can do.Aurora Murphyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15374149159200550579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627090839086981216.post-63917616671217561252010-11-09T00:02:47.797-08:002010-11-09T00:02:47.797-08:00Dear Aurora,
I've thought a lot about love a...Dear Aurora, <br /><br />I've thought a lot about love and loving. I've thought a lot about Irigaray's question "How can I say I love you without it meaning I wonder if I am loved?" and her assertion that the unknowable Other cannot return one to oneself. Resisting the (western) myth of Romantic Love can be a useful strategy. at the very least it gives you something To Do. Resistance requires meeting boundaries (your own and others). Boundaries are useful for then you can fall (in Love, or out) without losing form or integrity. <br />humbly yours, etc...Ladyfingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10782218328587238000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1627090839086981216.post-42672154172054696762010-11-04T10:43:27.461-07:002010-11-04T10:43:27.461-07:00i'm trying to channel greg ...
trying to work ...i'm trying to channel greg ...<br />trying to work out what greg would say ...<br /><br />what i can say is that i've never thought of you as unloving. i've always thought of you as the opposite - as being full of love that you love to share - that you're excited and delighted to share. i so hope you get your loving mojo back - it suits you so well!<br /><br />(you do know you've only got three questions don't you, and you have five points ...)dystopianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13214073199537007529noreply@blogger.com