I'm trying to learn how to love. I thought you might know? You seemed to get it right so often in the 80's.
I don't think I'm doing it properly. I never got taught how to love. Or maybe I just forgot. Is that possible? I never used to feel unloving, it's just that lately, I've thought about it a lot cos I think I used to get it wrong. Like love the wrong people. Or in the wrong ways. Or maybe I was the wrong person? Like, maybe I just don't know how to love.
To make it more clear, this is what I think of as to be loving:
- really try to listen, even if they say stupid things
- work with this person as part of a team - understand that you are woven together through your love
- be really really honest, even if it's embarrassing
- make them feel a bit special sometimes by treating them like a princess
- even if they're a cow sometimes, let them get away with it
But Greg - this isn't working. My track record is pretty bad. We always end up hating each other in the end. And now, well I think I have the chance to love again - but better.
Could you more clearly outline love for me?
Thank you in anticipation,
PS - I have also been reading Romeo and Juliet and The New Faber Book of Love Poems. They however, seem to have it as arse-up as me.